friend
(noun)
1. A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
2. A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
3. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.
4. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement: friends of the clean air movement.
I have AMAZING friends. I find myself surrounded by friends who truly care about me and my daughters. Friends who would do anything for me. I have friends who would even kill these TEXAS SIZED TREE ROACHES which are so common. ICK! In the past few years, I have have really learned what the TRUE meaning of friendship is. I believe anyone who has gone thru a move (to another state), a break up or a divorce really learns the true meaning of friendship very quickly. Ten years ago, I moved to Texas from Illinois..not knowing a single soul. Sure, I moved here and made "work friends" but really had no REAL friends that I could go out to dinner with, talk to or hang out with. I found myself surrounded by wives of my husband (at the time) and had nothing in common with any of them except watching the guys play softball and drink beer (and tons of it).
Since my divorce, needless to say, I do not speak with any of those wives who claimed to be friends with me. In this past 2 years, I have made some AMAZING friends....friends who are like a family to me. I am so grateful to have so many friends surrounding me who are just as loving and caring as I am. I am so blessed to have this circle of friends...you all know who you are! I love each of you and thank you for being the amazing friends that you are...
Friday, July 23, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
My Carriage turns into a Pumpkin at 11:00pm
Okay, allow me to amuse you... (again, this blog entry all ties into my page title)
So, during my divorce (oh, what an ugly ugly time) my "husband" at the time was trying to figure out (with the assistance of his BITCH attorney) how to continue to control my every move. Well, he sure got his money's worth out of her...she was able to locate a "Morals Clause" for him to add into our decree. You see, he had this major fear that I would have a boyfriend and want to sleep over there with my girls or possibly have him stay at my house. So, to ensure that THAT would NEVER happen, he was able to have this clause added into our decree. Now, for the record, before I continue and before anyone can pass judgement on me....I am ALL FOR protecting my children, there is no question about that. I live and breathe for my daughters. I DO NOT however, need my EX or the State of Texas telling me that I an not "ALLOWED" to have "anyone with whom I am having an intimate dating relationship with; in the place in which I reside (when my children are present) between the hours of 11pm and 6am". What this means is that if my daughters and I are anywhere (does not matter if it is my house or a friends house etc..) and my boyfriend is present...well guess what, we have the leave by 11pm OR I can get in some serious legal trouble and be held in contempt of court!!!! Do you believe this hogwash???? Like I said, I can understand the reasons for this, there are so many dangerous people out there but for christ sake!!! I have to be penalized for some irresponsible parenting by people who have shown reasons for such a clause to be added into their decree. Not to mention the perverts out there (yep, I am watching you on watchdog.com and all the DPS website to know where all the pedophiles are located). I did it before I moved to know if there were any close to my house, school, church etc.. and will continue to do this to be an informed parent to again, protect my children.
Anyway, a couple years later...I of course find myself in a serious relationship which has been with an amazing man (I will refer to him as Tex). I find myself having to say 'sorry babe, we gotta go...it's 11pm". Geeez
Well, I was able to get over it and Tex is so supportive of my situation as he is also a divorced parent. He does not have this "clause" however, he understands the control factor as his ex was pretty controling herself. As the months passed, we were able to figure life out and figure out how we could spend some time together "sleepovers" if you will. Things were working great, we had our "program"...the weekends that my kids were with their dad, I would spend that weekend with Tex and his daughter. It was great! Well, well, well...Mr. Control decided that THIS was not going to happen. Can you guess what happened next? After being stalked, having my car scratched etc... Mr. Control decided that he would stop seeing his kids. Yes, I said STOP SEEING HIS KIDS to ensure that I could never sleep over at Tex's house again!!!! He is a class act for sure.
Can someone please shed light as to why someone would do this????? My heart breaks for my kids as they have done nothing wrong and of course don't understand. I can't imagine not seeing or talking to my kids.
So, during my divorce (oh, what an ugly ugly time) my "husband" at the time was trying to figure out (with the assistance of his BITCH attorney) how to continue to control my every move. Well, he sure got his money's worth out of her...she was able to locate a "Morals Clause" for him to add into our decree. You see, he had this major fear that I would have a boyfriend and want to sleep over there with my girls or possibly have him stay at my house. So, to ensure that THAT would NEVER happen, he was able to have this clause added into our decree. Now, for the record, before I continue and before anyone can pass judgement on me....I am ALL FOR protecting my children, there is no question about that. I live and breathe for my daughters. I DO NOT however, need my EX or the State of Texas telling me that I an not "ALLOWED" to have "anyone with whom I am having an intimate dating relationship with; in the place in which I reside (when my children are present) between the hours of 11pm and 6am". What this means is that if my daughters and I are anywhere (does not matter if it is my house or a friends house etc..) and my boyfriend is present...well guess what, we have the leave by 11pm OR I can get in some serious legal trouble and be held in contempt of court!!!! Do you believe this hogwash???? Like I said, I can understand the reasons for this, there are so many dangerous people out there but for christ sake!!! I have to be penalized for some irresponsible parenting by people who have shown reasons for such a clause to be added into their decree. Not to mention the perverts out there (yep, I am watching you on watchdog.com and all the DPS website to know where all the pedophiles are located). I did it before I moved to know if there were any close to my house, school, church etc.. and will continue to do this to be an informed parent to again, protect my children.
Anyway, a couple years later...I of course find myself in a serious relationship which has been with an amazing man (I will refer to him as Tex). I find myself having to say 'sorry babe, we gotta go...it's 11pm". Geeez
Well, I was able to get over it and Tex is so supportive of my situation as he is also a divorced parent. He does not have this "clause" however, he understands the control factor as his ex was pretty controling herself. As the months passed, we were able to figure life out and figure out how we could spend some time together "sleepovers" if you will. Things were working great, we had our "program"...the weekends that my kids were with their dad, I would spend that weekend with Tex and his daughter. It was great! Well, well, well...Mr. Control decided that THIS was not going to happen. Can you guess what happened next? After being stalked, having my car scratched etc... Mr. Control decided that he would stop seeing his kids. Yes, I said STOP SEEING HIS KIDS to ensure that I could never sleep over at Tex's house again!!!! He is a class act for sure.
Can someone please shed light as to why someone would do this????? My heart breaks for my kids as they have done nothing wrong and of course don't understand. I can't imagine not seeing or talking to my kids.
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